Lots of people find that their problems would not disappear right away after they receive psychological counseling, but the problems can be dealt with, faced and gradually not disturbing anymore. Why is there such a difference? Because the world is not only outside but also inside us, the problems with things and people outside exist simultaneously within us. Therefore, as one gains some inner understanding and makes deeper and more real connection with him or herself through psychological counseling, several important dimensions would change:
The ability to face the true self often makes people more courageous, while the ability to identify one’s own original thinking/emotions/behavioral patterns leads to a non-judgmental revaluation and assumption about him or herself, which improves on self-acceptance and self-value.
In interpersonal relationships, you usually open your heart to those who neither complain arbitrarily nor throw the blame on you. And the stability of self-dependence comes from the understanding–“whatever I was before can not stop me growing up inwardly–since whatever happened in the past would not be as important as what I am willing to evolve into now. And all the complaint and blame about others or oneself turns out to be not so important. Thus, self-dependence originates from the ability to take on fully the responsibility for growing up rather than seeing oneself as a victim.
III. Autonomy and comfort
When you understand more profoundly about who you are, what the working of your inner self is and how your self relates to the world (why you thought, felt and lived the way you did before), you can see more clearly what’s important and irreplaceable for you and then arrange your life accordingly. In other words, whatever happens without and within yourself, it’s possible for you to choose another way to respond. Choices and possibilities are the tools for you to break through the given conditions, restraints and resistance to create a more autonomous and comfortable life.
From all the above, we can see how psychological counseling can shape a starting point (from which one progresses endlessly) that bestows one with more ability to love and contribute to the collective evolution of culture and society.